So, I thought today I would highlight a funny question I often get which I've never really spoken up about or answered as, personally, I don't really see it being a big deal. But I saw this morning someone had asked it again in my Instagram direct messages and figured I'd get it out here.
So yeah, I was looking at my direct messages (as I spend way too much time scrolling through Instagram when I'm bored) and a girl messaged me "Hey you're Lily Depp" so I responded with a "NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!"
And she had asked me a question which is "What is it like to be recognized or as *insert name here*'s daughter?" Whatever that means. So I just responded the way I always think of how people of actual "fame" might would, which is you gain a lot and you lose a lot. Which, to me, makes sense because I feel like I've witnessed it. But, to her, she went all :/ and said "What do you mean you lose a lot?" So right then I had an understanding of ah... she thinks of it all in a very certain way (as many people might I suppose). People often have the view that somehow my life is perfect and I have no need for any worries and don't go through any difficult times. Which is stupid in all honesty.
Anyway, after I talked to her for an extended period of time she said "Oh you're totally not stuck up or snobby! You're not dumb or doing bad things", etc., which admittedly I've also heard before from people who follow me on different sites. So I said "Well that's just you judging what you believe people like me are somewhat supposed to be or just what you expect to see, and then imprinting those ideas upon me". She agreed and understood what I meant.
Later on as we started to discuss her and I was asking about where she comes from and such, she would say "I'm this and I'm this, I'm from this I believe in this..." You get the idea. Eventually we both went on our way and the conversation ended and it was all good. And then I realized, I had done the same thing she had done to me. When she told me all that she was, I made my own assumptions instantly based on what I knew about the things she had told me. For example, she had said she was 20 and I just started thinking "Oh so she's probably at college, studying maybe alongside a job. She's not quite 21 though, not quite this, not quite that. She's not this and she's not that". So, before I knew it, I had judged her based on the things she called herself. And what I knew that thing to be was because I have grown up in a culture that sort of imprinted the idea of that thing in my mind.
So, in America, we have a good idea what it means to be a republican. Well, most of us. And we have a good idea what it means to be a democrat. In other countries that might not be the case, they might know these things (you get the point). But what I wanted to highlight in this blog post is that there is a balance to these things we call ourselves and we judge people based on these balances. And this is before we allow them to explain themselves. So when the girl had told me all that she was, "I'm this, I'm that", what she was actually saying at the same time was "I'm not this, I'm not that". We tend to lose this emphasis on the balance when were judging people. Not that we should judge but, you know, some people are more cautious than others and do it often without realizing. But we forget what that means. We also forget that at the end of the day, so many of us live such similar lives. But because we call ourselves something different, we actually distance ourselves from many people, but bring ourselves closer to others as well.
So people constantly ask what it's like to be a "celebrity's kid" or at the attention of strangers. I gain a lot and I lose a lot.
Happy Easter :)